A young feminist woman called me "heteronormative" when I asked a guy if he was riding off the coattails of the women in his life.  When I asked this question, she immediately took the guys side and scolded me with this term I hadn't heard of. Her scolding showed me that she thought it was okay that a woman supports a man. Sure there are times life happens, a man loses his job and his wife carries the family. But for an extended period of time? Her remark made me wonder if she realized all the things women do to support their households. Women carry a lot on their shoulders--the housework, child care, and bringing home a paycheck (for which women make 79 cents and not a full man's dollar). And now we have to stand up to the accusation of being "heteronormative" if we complain. So I wondered, was this feminist actually just being "heteronormative" herself by putting me in my place and telling me to stay quiet? It just makes you wonder if people use movements to justify their motives.

A young feminist woman called me "heteronormative" when I asked a guy if he was riding off the coattails of the women in his life.  When I asked this question, she immediately took the guys side and scolded me with this term I hadn't heard of. Her scolding showed me that she thought it was okay that a woman supports a man. Sure there are times life happens, a man loses his job and his wife carries the family. But for an extended period of time? Her remark made me wonder if she realized all the things women do to support their households. Women carry a lot on their shoulders--the housework, child care, and bringing home a paycheck (for which women make 79 cents and not a full man's dollar). And now we have to stand up to the accusation of being "heteronormative" if we complain. So I wondered, was this feminist actually just being "heteronormative" herself by putting me in my place and telling me to stay quiet? It just makes you wonder if people use movements to justify their motives.